The last 20 years has taught me a lot about people. It’s been a sad education.
There was the friend who stabbed me in the back over a letter she wrote that got her in trouble. I spent time and money to help her only to get tossed when my usefulness was over.
I had a friend who always wanted me to come visit but never once visited me. Wine was her issue. Staying sober long enough for a visit was out of the question. Ok, not fair, she was sober the first half of the day. But couldn’t be bothered then. Friendship on one person’s terms isn’t friendship.
There was the guy who always attacked me for telling him what the Bible said (Ron, don’t bother attacking God in comments. I will just ignore it.) when he talked about Jesus. Apparently what lies the church pushed was all he wanted to hear. He didn’t want to hear anything negative or warnings about where things were going. He once asked me “What would Jesus do?” I said He would warn people. The guy really got mad. But his favorite pass time was belittling everyone including me.
Then the friend whose husband didn’t like me, a guy I never said anything negative about, and talked about me behind my back but always nice to my face. I went through a bad depression and she just stopped answering my text and calls. I know my depression is hard to deal with but it wasn’t like I was calling and texting every hour, just once a day or every other. She texted and called all the time. She showed up at my house one night when they had argued over something she had done and my advice was to give him time to get over being mad and it would be ok. Then I find out he is saying bad stuff about me and accusing me of attacking him.
There was the friend who had pity parties over being gay. He was only after money. After helping him make a house payment he turned on me so as not to have to pay me back. Lied about a lot of stuff too.
And there was the guy who lied to me, and everyone else, about everything. He was a user too. I learned about narcissism because of this guy. I was wonderful, I was real, he was crazy about me. All the time I was being played. Everything was about him and how to keep me hooked till I could be replaced. And the worse, he sent another guy to my house telling him I would have sex with him. He doesn’t realize the danger he put me in doing that. What if the other guy would not have taken no for an answer after the way he built it up? I’ve been there and that is not something you ever get over. And any guy who would blindly put a woman in that position is the lowest of the low.
Then the guy who decided to attack me on Facebook because I would not agree paganism is ok in the church. He attacked me over an article he obviously didn’t read and decided to condemn me for my sins. He was obviously drunk at the time. Funny how all these people drink so heavily. They all seem to need booze to get through their lives. I would say they are all very unhappy people. I drink fromm time to time button everyday and haven’t had anything alcoholic in about 2 years except a glass of wine and didn’t finish that.
The politically active friend that I found out was lying about a lot of stuff. He said some pretty cruel stuff to me. Someone told me it was over jealousy but I don’t think that was it. I think it was more about my truth in politics stand. He liked to use people too.
I had one friend turn on me for pointing out Ronald Reagan called the talisman freedom fighters.
I have found most people are really out for what they can get out of you and I’m sure everyone mentioned above has gone out telling everyone what a bad, evil person I am when all I did was try to be friends but that wasn’t good enough. And I can confidently say, the loss is theirs.
I’m ok with myself. But I know things are about to get bad and seeing how these people are in good times heaven help anyone who gets entangled with them during the bad.
I’ve spent 25+ years telling people what was coming and all they can think is the next election will fix everything not even aware they are being played and playing others. Or, not my church because my preacher…trusting in politicians and corrupt churches and ignoring Christ altogether. One admitted they had no faith.
I tried.